All we have

What can turn dark into light, fear into courage, tears into laughter, pain into purpose and disappointments into motivations. Its only one thing that  comes to mind! Thats right im sure you didn’t guess it lol FAMILY.

I’m sure most people figured i would say love and although love contributes to all the above love is also an action and sometimes we can love right and other times love wrong! That’s a whole other post though lol! Anyway Family is the one aspect in life that can give you hope and make you believe in all of the infinite possibilities this world has to offer! And yes nobody has a perfect family and some people have had bad experiences with family and may not have been as fortunate as others. But  do not fail to realize that your initial family is only one aspect of the family makeup that you will encounter in your life. So for the people who may not have had the best childhood memory of family it’s still hope!


Family is Strength! Family brings out a fight in you that nothing else can.  It doesn’t matter if it’s the one you start in, the one you end up in, or the one you create either way its specific people placed around you to contribute to getting you to where you need to go. People often say you can’t choose your family and NO you cannot choose your initial family but you can choose who you consider family and who you make a family with! So solace can be found in the idea that you do have some control! You see family is a touchy subject for most we fail to understand the actual dynamics of it that’s why. And it’s pretty simple

Family is the one word that consist of LOVE, LOYALTY, TRUST, STRENGTH, CONNECTION, BLOOD (although not all family is blood),patients, kindness, faith, Dreams, belief ,help and togetherness. Everything that’s needed to endure life’s obstacles. God equips us with everything we need to make it in life. The greatest tool of all is family, the one place you can get wisdom, love, compassion and constructive criticism  all at one. Family is your strength, without people to believe in you hope can be lost. Sometimes it’s not enough to believe in yourself sometimes you need at least one person to believe in you enough that they are able to get you to believe in yourself to reach higher heights. Family is not perfect and enables you to be vulnerable but with it the possibilities are endless! And fortunately I was blessed with an awesome family but one of the most important lessons they have taught me is no matter what you don’t give up on family! So to anyone struggle with this idea and ready to give up its still hope things may not seem ideal now but eventually you will understand just how important this one Word can become in your life.  All families are Different But they are all worth it!  Remember it’s not just clothing its a lifestyle!


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Potential vs Proof


What is potential?

I’m sure we all have our own definitions of what consist of potential, but the Webster version states that “Potential is having or showing the CAPACITY to become or develop into something in the future. Another definition of Potential is, latent qualities or abilities that MAY be developed and lead to future success or usefulness.   So what is Proof then?  Well the definition of proof is evidence or argument establishing or helping to establish a fact or the truth of a statement. So let me break this down for you right quick! In both definitions of potential the tone the definition is in speaks possibility, using words like “capacity” and “may” indicates that something is there but the end result is unknown. Meaning that certain characteristics may be present and are available but if they are not worked on and or even noticed the end result can be altered. When instead the definition for Proof indicates assurance, the word “evidence” and “fact” was used meaning that no matter what order or way something may present itself the final result will be the same resulting in “proof”.

Now that we got that little lesson out-of-the-way! Think about every time you fell in love with Potential and if or any time you have fell in love with Proof. Often times Woman get stigmatized with the notation that we fall in love with potential often. Women, have a tendency to see the “Potential” in a man and want to bring that to life. And often times, results in trying to change him in order to bring forth what we sometimes feel he has in him. And feel free to correct me if I’m wrong, but as woman we fall short in this area. I’m guilty so I’m not playing the blame game at all! But as women we sometimes feel like we can change a man and WE CAN”T it’s that simple! In all actuality we are not supposed to be changing him but in fact enhancing him and helping him birth the things that are already inside of him,  the things that he is aware of to help him become great. Not putting things inside him trying to change him and birth the potential that you see and he may not! There goes that word May again! Ladies you get potential when we are seeing what we think needs to be birthed.  You get proof when he is seeing what needs to be birthed and makes steps towards that. Our potential may not be his proof and it will never come to pass if he can’t see it. This goes for every relationship we try to see the good and that’s fine but we have to learn to expect everyone to be themselves!

Now ladies im all for girl power lol! But I am also all for giving credit when its due. And I feel like we could learn a thing or two from the fellas in this area. Not all but Most are total opposite in this retrospect. Men fall for “Proof” they can see the potential all day in woman and may even entertain a few but the woman he chooses to marry is his version of “PROOF”.  Somehow men learned and took a class that we skipped over lol, but they are very aware that just because someone has potential does not mean that the end result will birth the proof that they are expecting. They look for attributes and actions that support the “Proof “ that they would like to be birthed and come about. Have you ever heard of the saying “  If you ever want to know the type of man he is Look at his wife” . Men look for Proof because they understand that their spouse, their children, anything with a direct connection to them is a representation of him. They are his Reflection! not one that’s made but a reflection that was already there and radiates with ease. He understands that the actions and evidence that one displays is direct evidence  and “PROOF” of his Very own REFLECTION. Comment you thoughts below LETs TALK !

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